Encounter with My Ex-boyfriend

WHAT WILL YOU DO IF YOU FIND OUT YOUR SISTER'S FIANCE IS YOUR 

EX-BOYFRIEND?


Mmm...It is a tough question, right? I know a lot of ideas have come in your mind when this 

question is asked. I will also think of a lot of ways to react when I find myself in a situation like that. 

Unfortunately, I found myself in this situation recently. Everything happened in a glimpse of an eye,

it was like a movie, that I was one of the cast. This is how it all went down, I went to Africa
market to buy an African necklace that I saw the other time, it was beautiful but I couldn't afford it
back then so I went this time and to get some foodstuffs. I bought everything I needed and went to
my car. In my car from the parking lot when I was about to head to the main road, I saw two people

(male and female) taking a stroll towards the African market. I recognized the male being my ex-

boyfriend, I have not seen in seven years, but did not see who the female was, because all my mind
was tuned to my ex-boyfriend I have not seen in years. I went to park my car and went back to

the African market where they entered. I went there because I have so many unanswered questions

for my ex-boyfriend I have not seen or heard from in years and also wanted to make sure it was him.

As soon as I entered the store, it was only the female looking for stuffs at one aisle, I  did not see my
ex-boyfriend with her. The female and I bumped into each other and I found out it was my blood
sister. We hugged, then asked how each other was doing. We then found ourselves in a conversation
while she was shopping. During the conversation, I found an engagement ring on my sister's finger. I

immediately had goosebumps on my arms, but did not ask her anything. I told her, am going  to

another aisle to look for something but I was lying. I saw my ex-boyfriend at a different aisle talking

to someone. I did not approach him to cause any drama because I realized he was with my sister and

she was even engaged to him. However, I made sure he saw me so his own conscience will judge
him. He also pretended not to see me. I went ahead and bought something and went home. On my

way home is when everything started to hit me back. A lot of questions were running through my
mind. I was talking like crazy on my way home while driving. I came in a red traffic light, I stopped.

While waiting for the green light, I didn't realize I was talking aloud to myself. I came to my senses

when I saw two people in the car beside me looking at me with this judgemental face. 

I know you asking yourself what he did during the time we were dating, right? So this guy was

demanding for sex as soon as we started dating, I mean like two days after and our relationship was 

not even a month old so I made up my mind that, I wanted to see how serious he took this

relationship before I even think about sex with him. All my life, I planned to have sex after marriage 

but even if I see some remarks i expect from my partner then i can reconsider my decisions. 

However, he did not give me that chance. One day, he continues insisting on sex when I visited him, 

and I said no. I told him I wanted to go home. Do you know what this guy did? He escorted me to

the bus and went home. He didn't even wait for the bus to come for me to board first before he leaves.

I did not get angry for him doing that to me. I called him on the cell phone several times when I got 

home, he didn't pick my calls. I continued to call every day but nobody answered. I went to 

Facebook to send him messages but no replies. He unfriends me on Facebook and changed his

account. I went to his house several times but didn't see him. Till seven years gone by and he has

come into my sister's life. I told my mother about it. She said it hasn't been long when my sister 

introduce him to her. She advised my sister that, she should be careful with that guy because she has 

heard some things about him. From then, my sister doesn't pick my mother's calls. For a better

understanding, I live in a different state but went to visit my mother for a while. My mom and sister 

live in the same county but don't live together.

 

My question is, is it that my ex-boyfriend didn't recognize me because it's being seven years that we

saw each other or because of how awful he treated me, that he's pretending not to know me anymore?

I know people change, maybe he's a better and responsible person now or should I tell my sister

about what went on between her fiance and I so she can be careful?